It takes time to build a strong foundation for marriage. It takes a lot of work. It takes a lot of sacrificing. There are so many things that both parties have to do together to create the bond, the fire, and everything that goes with a solid marriage but it is so worth it!
Sandy and I don’t want to disappoint God when it comes to marriage. We know he brought us together for a purpose. How can we then go out and destroy it? I can’t imagine not spending time with my wife. We work very hard at our relationship. We do what we are supposed to do and we do it together.
We participate in church several times a week go to marriage classes and grow together spiritually every day. We also pursue God together daily. The key here is pursuing God together daily because it has to be daily and has to be together. I totally believe that you find a couple who are both pursuing God daily and together, noting can stop this couple!
I don’t think we have all the answers but I would not change how we live our lives one bit because NO HUMAN RELATIONSHIP comes before my awesome wife and I hope you feel the same way about your spouse!
I never understand people that let their friends or their jobs or their parents come before their spouse. If I had a job that took away from my relationship then it would be time to change jobs. We only have one life to live and we are going to experience it TOGETHER in harmony.
Sometimes I get tired of hearing people tell us how lucky we are when it is not luck, it is that we are intentionally married. We aren’t just married. We spend each day in an intentional way.
Oct 5th this year, we will cross our11th anniversary and I can honestly say I am more in love with my wife today than when we first married. I am so excited to spend the rest of my life with her and experiencing all that God and life has to offer. Are we perfect? We are far from that, but my wife is perfect for me and she says that I am perfect for her. Our match we feel was truly from God and we will do everything in our power to honor God in our marriage and grow together towards God so that we can fulfill God’s purpose for our lives and our marriage.
I hope no one takes what I just said wrong, I just wish more couples could see and open their hearts to what God wants for their marriages. God wants marriages to grow and not be pulled in many directions. He wants the 2 to become one and be on the same page. He wants both to think about each other, not self.
Every marriage problem comes from a selfish attitude, sometimes its one-sided but most of the time it is both parties. Most people want to be independently dependent but God wants us to be interdependent and there is a whole lot of difference.
When you start to become Christ-like in your marriage and focus on God together, you will see miracles happen. Just try it. Grab your spouse and say to them, I believe that God has a purpose for our marriage and we as husband and wife need to find out what it is, are you with me?
How can they say no? Once you start putting God first in your marriage then nothing is impossible! Imagine what can happen if you dare to ask God for the impossible together? Look out what can happen but it won’t happen overnight.
Are you in this for a short time and if it doesn’t work you’ll move on? Well guess what, if you move on and you haven’t worked through your selfish ways, you will still have the exact same problem in your next relationship or marriage. Or are you in your marriage for life and willing to do what it takes to make the marriage last but not just be a marriage but an inspired marriage?
Ask God to come into your marriage and start doing daily disciplines together for God like reading together, praying together, and going to a church that has passion together. The key is together! If you are going to build that foundation, you have to be together in life and let God guide you BUT remember, he doesn’t just guide you, he is also your guide. Give your life to him now so that you can take your marriage from where it is to where God wants it to go!
When God takes over in your marriage, you will see things and feel things that you have never felt before. You will experience marriage the way God has always planned. You can have a marriage that is on fire for God and each other. I have no doubt in that.
I will end with this; God wants the best for you and your marriage. God will only do so much; the grunt work is on you and your spouse. Take it from us, when you do the grunt work, it gets easier to do the work and the benefits far outweigh the grunt over time! You don’t want to miss what God has in store for your marriage!
Ask God to come into your marriage. Ask him to give both of you patience to deal with each other. Ask him to guide you so that you destroy your marriage. Ask him to give the both of you a purpose together so that you can move forward where he wants you to go.
Be Inspired or Be Left-Behind!
Chris Benton