You are probably wondering by the title what do I mean? I truly believe that once you get married that you as a couple need to focus on one passion together. There are ways to merge the passions of the two of you if you both already have a few passions in life. When two people share a passion and have God as the center then look out, your world as a couple will change!
Here is an example of combining passions to create a passion for marriage together:
Both of our passions meet at inspiring others. Mine is through writing and one day speaking, Sandy’s is through writing songs. So both our passions even meet at writing. We can focus on that together. So our ultimate goal is to build a future built around both of us helping each other write through music, articles, books and speaking and then this goes right into our ultimate Vision God has given us.
By doing that we have brought our passions together as one and now we can build our passions together as a couple. I know God had it planned this way. That is why he brought us together especially with such a crazy story we have. Just everything about us is lining up right in order.
It is amazing when you find the love of your life and you both can share the same passions. When that happens, magic happens and it can only come from God. We have watched many marriages either work or fall apart from people we know and even people we don’t know. When we dig deep down on the failed marriages, we see two people really living separate lives and just sleeping in the same bed.
Is that what God wanted? I really don’t think he wants both people to be so focused on making a living that they forget to live. Now I am not saying don’t work. You have to do that but you need to find something that you and your spouse can be passionate about TOGETHER.
I see husbands working 50+ hours a week and the wife usually working 40+ a week and then they both get home tired. They spent the best of their day with other people and then they are about to spend their tired selves with each other. Neither of them wants to talk about their day so they just do this day in and day out and we wonder why we have such high divorce rates?
When we look at the marriages that are truly together and have passion, they almost always have a common purpose in their lives. I know this is what holds the two together. It gives them excitement not only about their future but also about the people they are touching.
If you two can find something to throw your heart into even if it’s working this outside of your jobs, think about what that can bring to your life and marriage? Both of you working toward a common purpose in life. There is so much power in that. And who knows this could be something that you can build a business around.
We pray that everyone can experience what we have in the short almost 11 years that we have been married. It has been so great. If you are married then find that passion that the two of you can share and if you aren’t married then go find someone that you can share passions with.
I truly believe that you can take a lifeless marriage and add a passion that both can share, you would change that marriage for life. Just give it a try and see.
Be Inspired or Be Left Behind!
Chris Benton