Why is it that so many people go and get married with all of the high hopes to then in a few years struggling so bad that they want to end things?
Their marriage has no purpose. This blog entry could go many ways and probably will as I am writing this. The more we watch people and their marriages the more we have realized that you have to have a purpose for your marriage and you have to be in your marriage on purpose.
Both of those ideas have different meanings and I will talk about both.
First, lets talk about having a purpose for your marriage. Why would God say that when you marry that you must become one flesh? Just think about the power in that one verse? I know many people say well we are married and that means we are one unit or we are one as we have one family unit so that is the purpose of our marriage.
I know that God’s meaning is bigger than that. We will never fully understand God’s ways but as you dig deeper into his word you begin to realize what he means. Everything God does has a purpose. You have to figure out what his purpose is for your marriage. God will NOT bring the two of you together without a shared purpose and vision for your marriage.
I have been talking to many people about this whole idea and I have finally found some people who gets it! If you are living your marriage as independent people then God is not going to take you where he wants. He can’t. As they say a house divided will fall, well a marriage divided will fall also.
Sandy and I feel this is why we have stayed so strong even though over the last few years our finances have dropped. We have this purpose from God to help people think outside of the box, to help marriages go to the next level and to help people get closer to God. Our whole goal is for you to move to the next level spiritually, mentally & emotionally.
Now on to the second idea from this is, are you living your marriage on purpose? If you went into your job tomorrow and said I have my job by default so I will not do any work, what would your boss or if you are the boss, what would your clients do? They all would fire you right? Do you realize that your marriage is firing you?
You may be saying but at my job I get paid. Well don’t you get paid in your marriage too? Is it money? Well actually sometimes it is because studies have shown that happy couples are more productive in the workplace and make more money than unhappy couples but that isn’t what I am talking about here.
You get paid with God’s blessings on your marriage. No amount of money could buy that. A marriage that has peace and joy and just plain excitement. Yes I said that, EXCITEMENT! Marriage is supposed to be exciting but it also has to be on purpose. It takes work to keep it at that level but it is well worth it.
Kids become more fulfilled when they see mom and dad being excitedly married. Are you really going to put your needs ahead of your kids fulfillment? If you say no but you are just letting your marriage happen then you are doing that without knowing it.
I want this message to be strong because we have a society that has become so selfish that we are losing our souls through our marriages. Every marriage problem stems from one or both parties being selfish. There isn’t a marriage problem that can’t be solved with Christ-Like selflessness. Marriage is not give and take like most people say, it is give and give.
As soon as one side takes the other loses. I have been so convicted on this subject that you may read more of this because we feel that this is a part of our calling. To bring people’s marriages back to Christ and have it become on purpose as God intended.
Some people may laugh at what we are trying to do but we know this is something that needs to be done as there are a lot of hurting marriages out there. That was not what God intended for marriage.
So in closing whether you need to live your marriage on purpose or you need a purpose for your marriage, God is right there waiting for you. Ask God to come into your marriage and bless it the way he wants. He wants you and your spouse to have fun with purpose in your marriage. Let go and let God work in your marriage and you will never be the same!
Be Inspired or Be Left Behind!
Chris Benton