When people think of bullying they think of high school or middle school but from what I have seen out there it goes way beyond that. Adults are some of the biggest bullies that you will ever meet. If they do not get their way they will have personal attacks against you that are just meaningless. They will say things that they can’t prove are true just to get at you because how dare you to disagree with them.
As I watch people on facebook and blogs especially the comment sections, we have more adult bullies than we do have child bullies. Its no wonder we have an epidemic in schools with bullying. They are learning this behavior at home. I don’t care if you think you are hiding your bullying ways, your child knows. They are smart. If you attack anyone from their weight to what they believe personally that is bullying plain and simple.
Many people in politics resort to bullying because they can’t change your mind on what you believe on the issue at hand. It’s ok for us to disagree with each other on issues, its when we make personal attacks is when you become a bully. I have seen so many people on both sides of the isle in politics come out against bullying in schools then they in turn bully others who do not believe how they believe in life and in politics.
I have watched people I truly respect call people stupid for what that person believes. As soon I see that, I lose some respect for that person because I now realize they have become a bully. Yes I have for years thought that people are stupid but now as I have gotten older and wiser, I have realized that we all have different beliefs and its out beliefs. I don’t want to be called stupid for my beliefs so I should call someone stupid for their beliefs either. Its works both ways.
How many times do you see someone on facebook post something that is heated then watch the comments flow. Its crazy some of the things that people call each other just because they believe differently. We all have a right to our own beliefs out there and thank God we do not all believe the same way because then our lives would be just boring and we would never accomplish much.
People with little to no money slam the rich calling them greedy even though they do now know them personally. We have rich people calling broke people lazy even though they do not know them personally. It just never seems to end. We needs to wise up especially in this social media where everything is exploded out of proportion.
We as a society need to look deep within ourselves and start to realize that it is OK to agree to disagree. It is NOT OK to slam someone personally for them disagreeing with you. If we don’t come to this realization then I feel bad for our society over the next 20 years because this kind of behavior only gets worse over time.
We need to be adults who when seeing this kind of behavior, take a step back from it. So many times I will debate someone on facebook and as soon as it turns into personal attacks I leave that conversation and delete all my comments because I do not want to be associated with someone who slams others to get their point across. If we all start backing away from conversations that start to slam people and attack them personally then I believe we will see a better world.
Again, I am not saying I am immune to all this because there are times I catch myself in this struggle to do the right thing but I do my best now to do the right thing especially since we have a toddler who is watching every move we make and every word that comes from our mouths.
All I am saying is allow someone else to believe different than you and get to know them on a personal level. You may find that you have more in common than you disagree on because most of us for the most part want the same things in life.
There are so many things I did not touch on with this article that I could have brought in to make this point even stronger but I believe if you have read to this point, you have gotten my point. Just quit the bullying as an adult. Quit calling people names because that is bullying and live your life so that when people think of you they think of someone worth knowing!
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Chris Benton