As I have gotten older and now with a 3-year-old, I have learned that balance is very important in life because without that, you will destroy everything around you over time. I am not saying that you won’t be balanced all the time because of course there are periods that you have no choice to be out of balance.
Maybe you are going back to school or starting a business and during those times there is no way you will have balance but as time goes you should work on bringing balance back to your life.You may be working 40 hours a week and going to college, so you are way out of balance. See if you are in school then once you get out there can be some balance brought back to your life.
You may be starting a new business and those first 2-3 years your life will be way out of balance especially if you are working at this business outside of a job, but again that is OK for temporary. The problem is when you are out of balance for 10 years straight or more, and I see this happen a lot. Your family no longer knows who you are, and you no longer know who they are.
You and your wife are starting to pull away, and this is the first sign that divorce will happen eventually. You start to feel nothing for your spouse because all you do is work then on top of that the two of you may argue more because of the time you are away from home. To add fuel to this fire, you may even work with very attractive women who uplift you on a daily basis to come home and be put down by your spouse.
You have to stop this cycle because you are destroying your marriage right before your eyes and you do not even see it. You need to go home and sit your wife down and explain o her that this working all the time is on temporary and show her how you plan to change this over the next year or so. If you do that, you may find that a spark reignites back into your marriage. Some flames will return when you are on the same page. When the communication is there, and both people know what to expect, then romance can now take place again.
So if you are out of balance, find a way to bring it back so before you destroy your family because you don’t want to be on your deathbed thinking why was I away from home so much all these years?
Be Inspired or Be Left Behind!
Chris Benton